Marriage Situations

“Real Beauty”—In the Eyes of the Beholder

“Real Beauty”—In the Eyes of the Beholder

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We’ve been tossing around the idea of writing a set of posts about body image for a while. Last week, when I first watched the  Dove “Real Beauty Sketches” video I thought it might be a good way of introducing the topic. (And I’m not knocking the video. It was very thought-provoking. ) But honestly, after I saw the male parody there…

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“Don’t Touch Me!” Part II

“Don’t Touch Me!” Part II

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In answer to Paul’s closing question from the last post; yes, life would be a great deal simpler if husbands knew the mental paradigm for making the decision of when and when not to physically comfort their wives during a trying experience. Unfortunately, I doubt very much that men could survive the mental deluge that would flood their minds should…

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“Don’t Touch Me!”

“Don’t Touch Me!”

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Today I am writing the first half of a marriage situation post. Liz and I have laughed about this issue every once in a while, but it still remains one of those little things that can act as the proverbial wrench (possibly a small wrench) within a couples’ marriage. Every few months I am asked to sing a solo in church. As I…

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Date Night Disaster II

Date Night Disaster II

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So today we provide you with some ways to resolve the situation that we posted yesterday. As always, my comments will be normal and Paul’s will be bolded. . As we begin, I should say that there are numerous considerations in this all-too-common situation. It is a tangle of circumstance, differences in personality, differences in gender, with the overarching understanding…

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Date Night Disasters

Date Night Disasters

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It’s been awhile since we have given you a plain old situation post (a la this one, or this one). So we thought we’d break from our current methodology and focus once again on one of those real-life moments that test marriages. Like before, my comments will be normal and Paul’s will be bolded.   Any couple who has children…

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Service in Marriage: Getting Practical II

Service in Marriage: Getting Practical II

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Well, we gave you a whole week to talk about those marriage situations from this post. (As you might have guessed, our past few weeks have been nothing short of hectic. But thankfully, a period of calm is on the horizon : )  Hopefully you were able to enter into some lively conversations with your spouse as a result of the scenarios and questions…

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Service in Marriage: Getting Practical

Service in Marriage: Getting Practical

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I have always been a little irritated by books or sermons or blogs that, on the one hand, deliver a powerful and convicting  message (“Stop being selfish! Serve your spouse like Jesus served us!”) but then leave me with the barest of practical applications (“So…go do better!!”)   Maybe that’s just me. Maybe I’m just not imaginative enough. Or maybe…

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Respect in Marriage: Getting Practical II

Respect in Marriage: Getting Practical II

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This weekend was incredibly busy and Liz and I were too tired (albeit a good tired :-) to post this yesterday. So, in answer to this post:  Problem 1: Respecting your spouse when they don’t respect you. The Wrong Solution: You might decide to tear them down in an attempt to feel better about yourself. Kind of a “tit for tat” mindset….

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Respect in Marriage: Getting Practical

Respect in Marriage: Getting Practical

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We want to give you some practical applications for how respect plays out in the everyday realm of marriage. Sometimes it’s helpful to think about where the rubber meets the road. Disclaimer: There are marriages where the lack of respect constitutes a more serious problem than the scenarios we give below. The principles of this post can still help those more serious…

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